The Glittery Things

We’ve all heard the phrase, “everything that glitters ain’t gold”, and though this phrase has been thrown around for many aspects of our lives, how many times do we relate it to our dating life?

Ladies: Imagine walking around the grocery store and the man of your dreams bumps into you in the produce section. He is FINE! Looks wise, he has every quality and trait that you look for in your partner. He talks and texts in complete sentences, loves wining and dining you, amazing chef, etc. BUT he is addicted to drugs, when he gets upset he explodes, and you question your safety. He doesn’t have a RELATIONSHIP with Christ, yet he pacifies you by going to church once a month or so. What do you do, do you stay or do you go?

Fellas: This girl is BAD, in the good way of course! Purely beautiful! Banging body, enjoys sports, natural eyebrows, long flowing hair, little to no makeup, fun to hang out with, loves cooking, cleaning, etc. BUT she can’t hold a conversation, she goes to church but right after service she is back to fussing and cussing, and being messy. Not to mention, she has been around the block a time or two. Though she is bad, she is content with her current situation and lacks drive. She curses like a sailor, and feels entitled to the finer things in life because every man she has encountered tells her how beautiful she is. What do you do? Do you stay or do you go?

Really, what do you do? I know you are saying “I’m gone, out, done, deuces…”, but in reality, “that’s bae!” You think you can change him or her, and that your covering and influence via Christ is going to improve them in one way or another. This person compliments you looks wise, you really enjoy each other’s company, but you know they are not God’s best for YOUR LIFE.  1 Corinthians 15:33 tells “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals””. As a Christian, we cannot allow the people that we date to ruin us in Him, just because we are attracted to those glittery things. Remember, everything that glitters ain’t gold, and in situation like those prefaced, that person is gold plated not the golden nugget you thought. Thus, this gold plated brick will one day ruin the person that God has called and created you to be.

Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Trusting God in dating can be one of the hardest things we do. Depending on your age range (I’m 28), logging onto social media can be depressing because everyone is getting married or engaged, BUT when you can trust God and not even try to understand his plan, your outcome will be great! Beyond that, when you trust God, and you allow Him to lead your dating life, not only will He introduce you to your PERFECT mate, but that man or woman will compliment your looks and your anointing!

If you are questioning your anointing and dating within it, your anointing is the ability to do things with ease and no struggle through God that lives within you. Can you imagine dating with ease and no struggle?  My God, that would be AWESOME! If we can seek God first, stop looking at glittery things, but rather look for the God in someone, your partner will not only compliment your looks, but also your heart, your spirit, your anointing, and everything else that God has placed in you. He will send you such an amazing partner that you yourself will not believe the masterpiece He has prepared for you.

When I saw this picture of my friends Trent and Natalie, I immediately knew that I needed it in this post. These two are an AMAZING example of a couple being aligned to the will of God and complimenting each other’s anointing. When Natalie posted this picture, her comment read: “It’s very difficult to find a relationship where you are equally yolked, especially in our generation. We don’t seem to believe in spiritual and physical roles, submission, provision, prayer, respectful disagreements, humbled conversation, accountability, 2 Corinthians 13:4 kind of love, nor vulnerability; BUT GOD!!!! I am grateful to God that I have someone I can trust to be in the will of God and can meet him there.” These two are the epitome of a great God fearing couple, and their lights truly shine within their relationship and individually within their lives.

With that being said, God has created us with GREATNESS in mind. Regardless of the glittery things that we see, that catch our eye, we have to look for the Jesus in our potential partners. Being a single Christian in 2015, dating is HARD! But God… He is perfecting you for your perfect man/woman and He is equipping you with the tools you need for your anointing and your partners anointing to connect and impact the kingdom of God. Don’t be weary men, your “good thing” is coming! And ladies, be patient, God is preparing a man for you that is absolutely perfect for you. Trust God, but most of all, TRUST HIS TIMING!!!

I love you! I’m praying for you!! Be Great!!!